Bridal Shower Program And Wording Bridal Shower Dilemma???

Bridal Shower dilemma??? - bridal shower program and wording

It's a girl in my PhD program got married in March. I talked to her, and she said it is not a bridal shower, because no one raises his own ... That made me hormones (pregnancy) dang sad. So ... adopted me and another girl to start with a little girl in the shower program. We will send you to avoid (non-formal) and opted for two hours, one day after school, meeting friends for dinner. Well, I'm very close to this girl at all, thought it would be nice. The other girl, the best party to check with the bride to be the first to make sure that this has been agreed. It turns out that people are making the effort, because money is scarce. I'm not sure how to handle this. Suggestions?